Dancy was born February 22, 1942 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and grew up in Haverford, Pennsylvania, Greenwich, Connecticut, and Fishers Island, New York. She attended Rosemary Hall School in Greenwich and earned the Optima Award for Academic, Athletic, and Social excellence. She attended Briarcliff College and graduated from Sarah Lawrence College in Bronxville, New York. She was an avid reader and her desire for learning was unmatched. She continued her graduate education by earning by a master’s degree in philosophy from the University of California Davis and two additional master’s degrees in political science and counseling at Fresno State University. The counseling degree focused her on clinical psychology and she earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Her primary interest was adult development based on her love of the 19th century novelist Edith Wharton. She maintained a counseling practice in San Francisco focusing on adult development until she retired and turned to her love of gardening in Carmel.
Dancy never met a stranger and loved her friends and family with a passion. She is survived by her husband of 46 years, Charles Jonathan Kittrell of Carmel, California; and her sons, Charles Hiram Upson IV of Steamboat Springs, Colorado, and Peter Scott Upson of Redding, Connecticut; and five grandchildren, all of whom know her as “Didi.” She also leaves behind her sisters, Betsy Cullen of Southbury, Connecticut, and Wesley Cullen Davidson of Vero Beach, Florida; and her brother, Geoffrey Cullen of Santa Cruz, California.
Dancy left us January 22, 2023 all better than she found us and her reward is planting gardens in heaven and eating M&Ms by the handful. She will be sorely missed by all who knew her and loved her.
There will be a “Celebration of Life” for Dancy at 11 a.m. March 31 at the Mission Ranch in Carmel.